NAIROBI, Kenya — A social media post asking whether men can tell if a woman has recently been intimate with someone else ignited a heated online debate, drawing hundreds of responses since it was shared Saturday, Aug. 2, 2025.
The post, from X user @_0Nestor (ID: 1951535415531376858), featured an image with the text, “Can men actually tell if a woman has just slept with someone else???” posted at 6:47 a.m. The query, accompanied by a second identical image, prompted a range of claims about body language, scent and behavior.
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“Women tell us with every part of their body, emotions, movements, gestures — everything just speaks,” wrote @IamNdodana. Another user, @RealSotirios, claimed, “Of course at once! It’s something that women no matter how hard they try to hide and act they simply cannot.”
Some responses were more specific. @menscoach1, known as TOP G, said, “If her eyes look dull and she knows more styles than you, then she has been with many.” User @Favezy added, “For a retired woman … the smell of her pussy will give it away after washing up, also her pussy will be slack for a while before returning to default.”
In Nairobi, 32-year-old mechanic Kiptoo said he tested the theories after noticing changes in his 29-year-old girlfriend, Nia, a dancer. “Her eyes seemed less bright, and I smelled something different,” he said Sunday, Aug. 3, 2025, at 8:24 a.m. East Africa Time. Another user, @dan_p_ofem, supported the idea, writing, “Very easy to tell … her body language, attitude, response when u go near her emotionally and of course the smell from down there is never the same.”
Skeptics weighed in. @OnchainNerd called the claims “purely guesswork, mostly,” while @freestyler58 said, “Pretty easy to figure out. If she’s too confident while engaging, she has more experience than you.”
Kiptoo confronted Nia, who attributed the changes to exhaustion from dancing with a new studio partner and a new perfume. “It was a misunderstanding fueled by those posts,” she said.
The debate touched on scientific questions. A 2017 study in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found no consistent evidence that men can detect recent sexual activity through smell, though the X thread suggested otherwise.
Amina, a 28-year-old graphic designer, turned the discussion into a story, posting it online Sunday and tagging @_0Nestor. “It shows how perception can mislead,” she said.
